Revolutionize Your Dating Life!
And Meet Your Person.
Welcome to Revolutionize Your Dating Life: Remove the blocks to love in your life.
A 6-week live, on-line psychological-spiriutal coaching program to help you change the way you approach dating and meet your person.
You might be experiencing…
feeling frustrated, tired of dating and dating apps and feeling lost or even hopeless about how to move forward with dating. You need a new approach to dating that helps you have better dating experiences, meet better potential partners, feel more hopeful and empowered, and good about yourself and what you have to offer. And then, be be able to find a person that becomes a good, real possibility for love and life together.
Or maybe what you’re experiencing is more like this…
getting ghosted, feeling rejected, getting blind-sided by others’ lack of interest
being into a second or third date, but the other person suddenly seems to lose interest
getting the “I’m just not ready” bullsh*t story after you’ve started to invest
meeting people who are interested in you, but who you aren’t interested in or vice versa…
investing hours and not getting responses or follow-ups to messages on apps
being attracted to people who end up being avoidant and emotionally unavailable, OR not being interested in people who are good for you
getting involved with people who aren’t really who you are interested in, but you feel comfortable, stuck, bored or ambivalent
The Key is…
to discover what your blocks or obstacles are and start to change them in a revolutionary way. If you knew how awesome you were, and then found the places where you get stuck due to old, out dated mental programs, you’d be freed-up to believe in yourself and your sou’s desires. We can change your approach AND change your brain’s old internal programs that have been interfering with you meeting the right kinds of people in your life.
I often say that, like a car, we have a gas pedal and a break pedal. The gas is the obvious, conscious part or parts of us. The break pedal is the implicit or unconscious part or parts of us. We all have breaks that interfere with and block us, that impede what we’re consciously trying to do or get in life when we’re pushing the gas pedal. A big part of the puzzle is to discover what those breaks are and free ourselves up to move forward with what we consciously want.
The mystic philosopher & poet, Rumi said it this way,
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to… find all the barriers to love you have [unwittingly] built against it.”
“Bart is genuine and caring. He listens with a deep sense of understanding and compassion which made me feel really heard. He assisted me in finding resolution…I can't say enough good about Bart. He's truly gifted. Highly recommend.”
—Cynthia B.
Imagine if you could…
discover how to approach dating in a new way: A way that makes you feel more empowered, informed, aware, and intentional about dating…
That helps you remove the obstacles that have been interfering with finding love…
And that helps you meet people that have the same relationship and life goals, values and desires as you, leading to finally meeting your person.
Or what if you could…
Have a more powerful, existential, humanistic, spiritual orientation to life and dating
Learn to be aware of your beliefs and start to change old, unhelpful beliefs about yourself
Learn helpful dating approach, skills and strategy
Learn about your attachment style and how it affects dating and relationships
Learn how to visualize or do effective mental rehearsal
Learn about social and cultural influences on dating and how to avoid those traps
Discover core beliefs, narratives and obstacles (dynamics) that have been keeping you from meeting good people
Develop a community of people who share similar frustrations and feel less alone in the dating process
Learn about your attraction template and your attachment style
Meet Bart Hatler, MA
Hi, I’m Bart. I’ve been helping people solve their relationship issues for nearly 15 years.
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I have spent a number of years researching and developing an approach to dating that includes a detailed and in-depth of understanding of where people get stuck around relationship issues. I’ve had my own personal struggles and frustrations with dating and being single which helped me understand the challenges many single folks face. Through my personal experience and my professional training and experience I have been able to develop the philosophy, strategies and tools of the Create The Love You Want TM for couples and the Revolutionize Your Dating Life Approach TM for single individuals that have also helped many others to move from being single, hopeless frustrated and disempowered to approaching dating and relationships differently and experiencing more freedom, personal joy and happiness in relationship.
Week One
Introduction and Overview. What makes this approach different, how to begin to revolutionize your approach to dating. Getting started with your Attachment Style, Attraction Template, Enneagram, EDPSA, and dating skills assessment.
Week Two
Uncovering Your blocks, barriers and old programs. Identifying core beliefs, narratives and patterns that contribute to frustrating and/or repetitive dating or relationship patterns. This knowledge is power.
Week Three
Re-wiring. Introducing and exploring a number of tools to help us start to question, evaluate, challenge and replace old adaptive strategies and programs that don’t work anymore. Creating new, more positive beliefs, narratives and “code” and seeding new patterns and possibilities (attracting/visualizing). Change is a’comin.
Week Four
Digging Deeper. This week we’ll combine what we’ve gathered and built in Weeks One, Two and Three. We’ll be digging deeper, processing and doing experiential work that creates change in the neuropathways in the brain. Planting new positive, empowering seeds.
Week Five
Dating Skills, Tools, and Strategies. The first four weeks have been deeper internal work. This week we’ll explore more practical dating skills, tools and strategies and address areas where you might struggle.
Week Six
Review, Integrate & Next Steps. We’ll review key points, hi-light your takeaways, celebrate your accomplishments, reinforce your new perspective and approach and help you launch into a new Revolutionized approach to dating.
Logistics
In this 6-week program we’ll meet in small-group format of no more than 6 people.
We’ll meet online on Friday afternoons at 2pm PDT.
Each week we will meet for 60 minutes via Zoom.
In between meetings there will be some background work to help you build your new approach to dating and be prepared for the next week.
Dates & Times
Course Dates:
First Friday -June 20, 2025
Second Week - June 27, 2025
No class July 4th, 2025
Third Week - July 11, 2025
Fourth Week - July 18, 2025
Fifth Week - July 25, 2025
Final Week - August 1, 2025
Course Time:
2pm Pacific Time
Investment
The cost for this live, online 6-week course is
$599 paid in full
OR
$650 paid in 3 installments
This course is for you if…
You are ready to meet someone for a long-term relationship.
You don’t mind nice dates, but you’re trying to get out of the dating scene.
You aren’t looking for new hook-up tools or skills
You are interested in learning how you might be contributing to the patterns you’ve been caught in.
You are looking for help to make real changes in you and in your approach to dating.
This course is not for you if…
You’re primarily looking for ways to have more fun, sexy date nights and adventures.
You’re looking mostly for dating skills, tools and strategies (while we do cover some of that, our focus is on uncovering psychological blocks and barriers).
You’re not that interested in deeper personal exploration and self-awareness.
You aren’t open to looking at your part, unconscious or unintentional though-it-may-be.
FAQs
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This isn’t a therapy group, it is more like coaching or mentoring. While I am trained and licensed as a therapist, in this setting I will be in the role of coach or mentor, not your personal therapist. I will help you learn concepts related to frustrating dating-relating patterns or blocks and there will be sections of self-exploration, group-process, and one-on-one process.
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Yes, there will be times for everyone to ask questions, share ideas and get one-one-one support in the group. You can also book one-on-one time with me if you want to have more dedicated time to exploring your thoughts and processing things together.
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I will ask you to answer some questions and share a bit about your current situation, recent or past dating and relationship history and your goals, hopes and expectations for the program. We’ll make sure this is a good fit for you before you make any commitments.
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You will learn about your attachment style, attraction template and other factors that influence who you are attracted to and end up connecting or in relationships with and how that interferes with healthy or effective relationship dynamics. You will identify your core relationship wounds, beliefs, narratives and patterns AND ways to re-wire your brain and mind for new kinds of relationships and healthier dynamics that work for you. You will be taught ways to change negative self-beliefs that disempower you in your dating life. You will have opportunities to do inner, personal work in the group and outside. You will meet others that struggle with attachment, attraction and dating-relating dynamics similarly to how you do and build rapport and support in community. You will leave the program with new knowledge, tools and a plan and approach to dating that may change your relationship dynamics dramatically immediately, over time, or both. If you apply the ideas and tools from this program with intention and dedication your approach to dating will change and you will feel more comfortable, confident and ready for the kind of relationship your heart desires.
Ready to get started?
Change starts today.
Questions?
I’d love to chat. Visit my contact page to reach out.